Those words mean so many different things. Everyone has their own unique take on the words “New Year.” For some, it’s a time of starting over, a blank slate if you will. For others, it’s the beginning of a new goal or project. For most of us, it’s about something new or a renewal of something old. We take stock of what’s past and have high hopes for the coming year.
In 2017, I lived by three words: Balance, Acceptance and Newness. I even wrote a blog about it; which you can read here: http://healthwealthfun.com/2018/01/11/acceptance-balance-newness/
To sum it up: Acceptance for what is in this moment means I’m at peace with what is. And I can move forward in a more conscious way. Working on balance means I get to be calm and grounded. It means I am present and in the moment – at whatever I happen to be doing. Newness came from a mentor and it has to do with circulating more energy into your day; new energy. When you do things differently on a micro or macro level, it clears the channels and allows dormant energy to shift which in turn allows you to experience new energy and allows your channels of attraction to open up.
As I was reflecting on 2017 and these words, I reread my blog and was determined to come up with some guiding words for 2018. I’ll admit, I was very tempted to reuse my three words for 2017. It would be so much easier; they were already defined and they are still very relevant. But that seemed like a cop out, like I was somehow cheating. And this didn’t sit well with me.
So I spent some time in quiet thought and reflected, not just on what I wanted for myself for 2018, but more importantly, how I wanted to feel in 2018. It’s the feeling part that’s so important. It’s our emotions that solidify our desires and lead to the changes required to achieving goals. I can dream up a hundred things I want for myself, but it isn’t until I visualize the pure joy of actually achieving a particular goal that it imprints itself on my brain and doesn’t let go. So, what is going to help me get to that joyous moment?
Mindfulness. That’s my word for 2018.
Mindfulness – being aware of what is happening right now. Being conscious. Being present in this moment.
Mindfulness is a mouthful. It’s huge. It can mean a thousand different things. The areas that come to mind first are eating, relationships and writing, though I’m sure many more will pop up in the coming weeks.
Let’s tackle eating first. For most of my life I’ve known and I’ve been told that I eat too fast. This is unhealthy for a number of reasons. One, it can lead to overeating because I don’t let my body recognize when it’s full – cuz I’m too busy shoving more and more food in my mouth. So by being mindful and focusing on chewing my food – I will naturally slow down and eat less. Thus by chewing more thoroughly, my digestive system will work that much better, I will be satiated that much sooner and I may actually release some unwanted pounds.
Taking this a step further, I will enjoy the food I’m eating. Eating becomes an activity in itself, not something I do mindlessly while doing something else. I will pay more attention to the textures and colors and flavors and smells of my food. And I will enjoy it more because all those things enhance the experience.
Relationships are tricky because sometimes, let’s face it, we don’t want to be talking to that person. On the flip side of that coin though, I am a firm believer that each chance meeting has something to teach. In other words, every single person has value and has something you may need. There are no coincidences in life. People come into your life for a reason even if it’s not apparent. Bottom line: there is always something to learn from every encounter.
My goal in terms of mindfulness in relationships is to work on not letting my mind wander. This is going to be difficult – because my mind never stops!! It will take hard work to not be distracted, but this is something I am committing to in 2018 and hopefully beyond. I will be intentionally present with whomever I am with.
Writing is interesting. When I was writing my first book, I would get lost in it. I was in the zone, or a state of flow or zen or whatever you want to call it. You know what I mean. It’s when time loses meaning. You have no idea how much time has passed because you are so engrossed in whatever it is you are doing. The rest of the world seems to disappear.
This happens to me when I write, so being mindful while writing shouldn’t be all that tricky. My goal here is to try and have this spill over into other areas of my life. To capture that feeling, that joy, that full immersion and apply it elsewhere.
When we are not mindful, we are not present. If we are not present, then we are missing out on life! Think of it this way: if you are worrying about something that might occur, you are living in the future. Some projected future that will probably never transpire. And you are missing what’s happening right now. If you are stressing over a mistake you’ve made or regretting a bad decision, you are living in the past. Let it go. It’s over. Learn from it and move on. Be present. Live now.
My intention for 2018 is to be mindful in every moment. To be present. To quiet my inner dialog. To be fully engaged. To live in the now.
What are your intentions for 2018? Drop me a line. I’d love to know!