… We’ve all heard this word. Yet what does it really mean? The truth is, it means different things to different people. To some it might mean to be in general good health. This might be especially true for people who have suffered ill health throughout their lifetime… So, if a woman spent her childhood less than healthy and then grew into a better state of health by whatever means worked for her, then to be healthy is to have wellness. To that person wellness may be completely related to health.
To others it may focus on emotional well-being. If they’re in a nurturing healthy relationship that brings emotional balance and stability – that’s wellness. Someone else coming home every night to an empty house might forage and binge on everything in the cupboards and freezer. That’s not wellness… That’s loneliness. That’s using food to fill a void. Others might look at wellness as being a spiritual thing. A regular yoga practice brings them peace of mind and balance in mind-body-spirit, which they equate to wellness.
For some it’s all about financial well-being. And even financial well-being has many different meanings. To a single parent, it may mean having enough money to put food on the table. To someone else it may mean being comfortable enough to have 2 cars, take a vacation and put the kids in private school. For others, it’s about getting regular Mani-pedis and massages.
There is no right or wrong!
What makes me happy may make you miserable. Things that challenge me might come easy to you. What I embrace, you may run from. My dreams may give you nightmares! We are all different. We are all unique. We all have different wants and needs and desires and hopes and dreams.
The bottom line is this… Wellness is a personal thing. Sure, there may be a universal definition of wellness, such as the quality or state of being healthy, according to http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/wellness . But there is more to it than that. As I hinted above, there are many dimensions of wellness. And each one of them has different meanings to each person.
Frankly, my personal belief is that true wellness encompasses and incorporates all the above. If I am good health, in an emotionally stable happy relationship, have a spiritual practice, and exercise regularly, but my finances are a mess – then how can I possibly have wellness? Messy finances bring stress, anxiety, worry, and more than likely headaches and acid indigestion, which may lead to more serious illness. Not to mention household fights about what and where to spend money. You get the picture.
Wellness integrates all facets of life:
… health, spirituality, relationships, home environment, activity, food beliefs, education, career, and probably more that I can’t think of at the moment. These facets ebb and flow as our lives ebb and flow and as the years ebb and flow. Not everything will be 100% fantastic at every moment. As much as we’d like to believe it – that just doesn’t happen. For example, your relationship may be over-the-top amazing, and yet your sister is going through a horrible divorce. This causes you some stress and heartache. Or, your son just got accepted to an amazing college yet you worry about the cost. Do you help him pay for it or will he be like thousands of other college grads with student loan debt?
Life is cyclical. There will always be ups and there will always be downs. It’s the way of the world. If there were no downs, we wouldn’t appreciate the ups.
Life is full of ups & downs. The trick is to enjoy the ups and have courage and perseverance during the downs…
As a health coach, I help my clients discover their definition of wellness and together we develop a plan for them to achieve it. I offer a space of love and non-judgment for us to have dialog about their goals and dreams for a better way of life. My job is to support, motivate and hold my clients accountable – so they may rediscover their optimal health and vitality.
If you are interested in learning more, contact me to schedule a free 45-minute Health History Consultation. Your future awaits!